Ruby Bedi noted in her book ‘One Billion Balloons (2012)’ that “there is more despair and illness than before, also a lot of confusion about how one should be with others. Conflicting beliefs are breaking down relationships and causing severe stress. Relationships are a part of our life through work, personal and everyday actions. We are constantly interacting with others.  We cannot help it. We need relationships to learn and evolve our soul”.

Unfortunately, due to stress our relationships are falling apart, we struggle, it never seems easy, and there is always some sort of conflict.  Why is this happening, you ask? It’s happening because we no longer truly listen to each other. With our busy lives we become so focused on racing from one thing or activity to another, we don’t stop, we don’t truly engage when interacting with others.  We hear what we want just to get the conversation over with, all the while thinking of something totally different or judging the other as they speak. This act of not truly listening continues the vicious cycle of relationship failures.

As Eckhart Tolle noted “Truly listening is another way of bringing stillness into the relationship.  When you truly listen to someone, the dimension of stillness arises and becomes essential part of the relationship.”(January 17th, 2014).

So, if we truly listen to the other when interacting we can create a bond, a connection, we learn compassion and understanding, which will bring ease, remove the stress and heal the relationship.  Take the time to really listen to others, forget about the millions of things you need to do, take the time to be fully present when engaging with someone. Forget the past. Forget the future. Be present and listen. Because, it is ‘Here and Now’.

Love and light