We all as parents, want our children to better us in every way possible. We want help them reach the top, the top we think is best for our child. In doing so, we create an imposition that is hard to recognize and even harder to break. In the process we end up aborting the real experience of being the parent. Let us set high standards, but not tell children how to reach them. When we project ourselves onto our children we violate their pure essence and interfere with their unique identity. This creates conflict. When we envision their future for them, we rob them of their true power. When we compare them with ourselves or others, we create stress and a split in who they are, and who they ought to be. This makes them mediocre and weak.